Surviving Long Distance Relationship

I have been in a long distance relationship for six years already and the best thing of how I could describe it is that it’s a constant countdown. It’s either we savor the quality time we’re spending with each other or we count the remaining months or days until we see each other again. 

As they say, long distance relationships are hard and I couldn’t agree more to that. It gives you anticipation and anxiety but you don’t have to give in because you have look at the bigger picture instead. 

But how do you make it work?!

BE PATIENT

Being patient is probably one of the most important rules when you are in a LDR. Considering that you have different priorities as well, you don’t know when you are going to see each other again. Love knows no distance and you would literally cross the oceans just to be with your partner. Being in a LDR can be costly (especially when you are countries apart). You’ve gotta save and patiently wait for promo fares. Once you locked in a date and booked a flight, that is when the countdown begins. 

There are times that you would have moments of loneliness when you are in a LDR. No matter what you do, they are always at the back of your mind. When you are feeling down or having a terrible day, you just wish they are with you to give a warm hug and a kiss to cheer you up. Wishing they are with you especially during the amazing moments of your life.

COMMUNICATE

Hey, we gotta thank technology for we can keep in touch with them - may it be through text, calls, and videocalls. These are just some of the other ways to stay intimate with them despite not being together physically. Another rule when you are in a LDR is to communicate. You have to keep your partner updated in what you do or where you are. A second to text or call them isn’t too much, right? You have to talk about your feelings too. An open communication is essential to keep things stronger between you guys. 

BE FAITHFUL AND LOYAL

There’s a difference between being loyal and being faithful. When you’re in a LDR and if you want to make things work, make sure to be both. There may be a lot of temptations around but you have to fight them. You gotta stay committed. TRUST is such a big word, as they say, but this is one of the essential things on how to make it work. You need to build that solid foundation of trust because in the longer run of your relationship, it will really matter. You don’t want to be in a relationship where it gives your so much anxiety and makes you paranoid, right? 

UNDERSTAND 

When you are in a LDR, it makes you (or forces you) to be an independent person in your relationship. Not having your partner beside you means doing things on your own. You have to understand that you have different lives of your own. Your world doesn’t revolve around your partner only. You also need to have time for your work, hobbies, and social life. That’s why you need to prioritize and compromise as well. 

SET A GOAL

Basically you have to plan the things you want to achieve together. May it be a romantic date, a travel and adventure, or probably a timeline like when you will end distance between you two. This will give you excitement on the things to look forward to.

FUEL THE SPARK

One of the common scenarios in long-term relationships is that you’ll get comfortable with the familiarity and routine. Do you know what’s the worst thing that will happen? One will get bored and fall out of love. The spark and excitement in a relationship can fizzle out over time. You have to rekindle it. Don’t stop dating. You can cook at home for dinner with special set-up or probably go out and eat at a new restaurant. Make sure to have time for each other and set aside your gadgets and social media. Try new things. Book a flight and have an adventure together, hike, or do things that you’ve never done before. You can just even stay at home and have movie marathon with popcorns, pizza, and chips. Sometimes, spending quality time doesn’t need to be fancy because the genuine little things will be appreciated.

There’s no perfect formula for a perfect relationship because no such thing exists. Love is a roller coaster ride. It needs two brave souls to make it work. 

Being in a LDR gives you a love-hate relationship with airports. I know it sounds crazy but getting ready to see him still gives me a lot of butterflies in my stomach. Every day and every hour that passes, you are closer to seeing them. 

And if you ask if long distance relationship works? 

I would definitely say, “YES!”

Happy 9th Anniversary, my Love 💕

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